“No matter where you go, there you are.”
This quote, which I’ve frequently used as a tag line on emails, is part of a line from one of my favorite movies, The Adventures of Buckroo Banzai Across the Eight Dimension! The title character, world famous physicist, neurosurgeon, test pilot and rock star Dr. Buckaroo Banzai, actually says “Don’t be mean; we don’t have to be mean, cuz, remember, no matter where you go, there you are.”
At first I loved this quote because it seemed goofy to me, and didn’t make any sense, so I’d use it to confuse people with its obviousness. Because, obviously, wherever you go, you’re there. Right? Silly.
But then, after I
got older matured, I pondered some more and realized it wasn’t silly after all. It really does have a deeper meaning, and a warning of sorts.
You may treat people like they’re beneath you, telling yourself it doesn’t matter because you’re better than them, anyway. You might think that moving out will make everything better. Or getting that certain person to like you. Or getting the ideal job, losing 20 pounds, buying designer clothes. Whatever it is that you think will change everything, make everything better, and fix all your problems.
Because when it comes down to it, no matter what you do or where you go, there is one constant. You can’t run away from yourself. No matter where you go, you are kinda right there with you.
If you’ve tried all sorts of different things to up your happiness quotient, and it’s failed, it’s pretty likely the needed change starts inside YOU, because whatever else changes in your life, you are always going to be right there with you, so you’d best work on being someone you (and everyone else) can live with.
A couple sources seem to indicate “No matter where you go, there you are” is attributable to Confucius, which may or may not be true, though he was a rather quotable sort of fellow, wasn’t he?