No matter where you go, there you are

“No matter where you go, there you are.”

This quote, which I’ve frequently used as a tag line on emails, is part of a line from one of my favorite movies, The Adventures of Buckroo Banzai Across the Eight Dimension! The title character, world famous physicist, neurosurgeon, test pilot and rock star Dr. Buckaroo Banzai, actually says “Don’t be mean; we don’t have to be mean, cuz, remember, no matter where you go, there you are.”

At first I loved this quote because it seemed goofy to me, and didn’t make any sense, so I’d use it to confuse people with its obviousness. Because, obviously, wherever you go, you’re there. Right? Silly.

But then, after I got older  matured, I pondered some more and realized it wasn’t silly after all. It really does have a deeper meaning, and a warning of sorts.

You may treat people like they’re beneath you, telling yourself it doesn’t matter because you’re better than them, anyway. You might think that moving out will make everything better. Or getting that certain person to like you. Or getting the ideal job, losing 20 pounds, buying designer clothes. Whatever it is that you think will change everything, make everything better, and fix all your problems.

You’re wrong.

Because when it comes down to it, no matter what you do or where you go, there is one constant. You can’t run away from yourself. No matter where you go, you are kinda right there with you.

If you’ve tried all sorts of different things to up your happiness quotient, and it’s failed, it’s pretty likely the needed change starts inside YOU, because whatever else changes in your life, you are always going to be right there with you, so you’d best work on being someone you (and everyone else) can live with.

A couple sources seem to indicate “No matter where you go, there you are” is attributable to Confucius, which may or may not be true, though he was a rather quotable sort of fellow, wasn’t he?


About Bobbie Laughman

May vanish if startled. Professional Advice Dispenser. Amateur Human Being. Scam Detector. Christian. Grandma. Writer-ish. Artistic leanings. Anti-social. Old School Trekkie. Contains Nuts.
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4 Responses to No matter where you go, there you are

  1. Samantha says:

    Right now I’m trying to do more than I should fretting over my house not being “ready” for baby. Yet I know God will make sure what needs to be done is done. I really don’t know why I allow my perfectionism to get the better of me.

    • Bobbie Laughman says:

      Perfectionism can be an evil thing, can’t it? It can make us feel like we’re not good enough, haven’t done enough. In some people, it leads to a sense of “why bother?” because they were taught “if you can’t do it right, don’t do it at all” and they just know they won’t do it perfectly. When we just do what we can, to the best of our current abilities, then things still move forward, and we can promise ourselves to do more when the situation allows.

      Prayers for you and your wee one (and the whole family)

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